by Johnny Jackhammer
My wife is a champion flirter.
She has an effortless ability to energize a room and connect with anybody she wants. Just this week she admitted to me, “FLIRTING is my middle name!” She is eager and sharp and ready to beam her smile at everyone. It’s all about a playful attitude.
Proof! My lady texting me a photo while she was furniture shopping.
A flirtatious attitude can boost your confidence, bring more fun into your day, and help you feel more energetic. There is something about the naughty exchange that quickens the pulse and sharpens the senses.
Flirting can also expand your world, making it easier to meet new people and strengthen existing relationships.
In her book Total Flirt, Violet Blue shares several reasons to flirt, whether it’s to find friendships, flings, or something more. She sums it up well when she says, “For everyone, it’s just good, clean fun.”
That’s how I see it too: good, clean fun with a twist of naughtiness. True sexual intellectuals are inspired by these salacious exchanges with playful people!
Ways to Flirt
This is where I seek your advice, as I hope to learn from others.
I like the fun of the eye contact spark, and I certainly am not looking for hookups as a result. I believe that flirting begins and ends with meaningful eye contact. Watching my lady has clarified the most important principles of flirting: eye contact and a smile.
I find that people are quick to return a smile when you smile at them. If you let the eye contact linger, you can turn a polite greeting into a flirtatious connection.
The art of the experienced flirt revolves around being playful without being misinterpreted. You might just be having a laugh without necessarily looking to bed somebody. The skill is found when you can raise the heat without stepping past anybody’s boundaries. That might be easier for a woman than it is for a man, since many men are eager to go as far as the woman will allow.
And the success of the flirt is in sharing the spark of attraction with them without pushing the need to act upon it.
And I would avoid any cliché that resembles a pick-up line. They may have a beautiful body, but you’ll only get an eye roll if you ask them to hold it against you. Be clever. Be safe. Be fun. But have a spark of naughtiness in you.
A drink might help, but be careful not to cross into the “creep” zone.
Flirting is best done in public.
My challenge to you is to bring more spark to your day. Why not feel the magnetic energy and share it with others to brighten their day? I challenge you to bring the sunshine to the general public. Let’s see if we can’t create a kinder, happier community.
So make some eye contact in the following daily situations:
- Sitting at the stoplight
- Walking through the grocery store
- Strolling on your lunch hour
- And, for experienced flirts, while on public transportation
And, one very important thing to keep in mind: make your lovers or partners your first and most frequent target. If the goal of the flirt is to energize your life, you’ll achieve so much more by building the fire that is already between you!
Plus, if you both get really good at it, you can expand into “threesome” flirting! Talk about some crazy and dangerous energy! And all in good, clean fun!
To be continued . . .