DIY Jeweled Clutch

Looking for a weekend project? Check out Laura’s DIY clutch. Gorgeous!

Oh Wize One

I am addicted to statement pieces. Seriously when something speaks to me I drop the cash and leave my logic at home. I’m beginning to understand  that spending big money on pieces I am only going to wear on occasion is irrational.

I love evening clutches but they are expensive and too small to carry for everyday wear. I have been wanting a clear acrylic clutch so I ordered this one off ebay for $8. When I got it I thought it needed some sparkle!

For this project you will need:

Clear acrylic clutch

Assorted rhinestones



Step One

Lay your clutch on a flat work surface. Plan out your design making sure you work around the larger rhinestones first.


Step Two:

Spread a small amount of glue on the back of the rhinestone and attach it to the purse. Be sure to let the stones dry for at least 5 hours…

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He’s 75 Today, But His Contributions are Timeless

by Kristie LeVangie

Seventy-five years ago, a woman gave birth to one of the most influential icons of American fashion.

Born in New York in 1939 as Ralph Lifshitz, Ralph was the son of a house painter and came from humble beginnings. His first foray into fashion began in high school where he sold neckties to his fellow classmates.

At age 16, he would change his name to the iconic Ralph Lauren.  He didn’t like his given name because it had the word “shit” in it as he would tell Oprah in a later interview.  He was often made fun of for this.

After high school, Ralph went on to Baruch College where he began to study business.  Two years later, he would drop out and serve in the U.S. Army.  He left the Army to work a brief stint at Brooks Brothers before landing a job in a tie company as a salesman.

At age 26, he was inspired to begin designing his own ties and pitched an idea for a wide European-style necktie to his company.  It was rejected, so he left to break out on his own.

Working out of The Empire State Building, Lauren took rags and turned them into his own designed neckties.  He would then sell them to small New York shops until his fate turned when Neiman Marcus placed an order for 100 dozen!

Just one year later, he would open his own necktie store where he would sell ties under the label of “Polo” with the backing of the famous clothing manufacturer, Norman Hilton.

Four years later, Ralph expanded his line and opened a boutique on Rodeo Drive in Beverly Hills.

In 1970, Ralph Lauren would go on to win the COTY Award for his menswear line and enter the realm of women’s fashion introducing a line of tailored suits.  This was also the debut of the iconic Polo logo.

His famous Polo shirt would be unveiled in 1972 and was available in 24 colors.  Today, this is still a classic staple of the Lauren line.

Fast forward to 1997, the Ralph Lauren Corporation became a public company.

Ralph_Lauren_2013Today, one man’s dream to sell neckties has turned into a billion dollar business, and Forbes places Lauren as the 19th richest person in the world with over 35 U.S. boutiques and many other retailers carrying the Ralph Lauren label.

Ralph Lauren exemplifies an individual who strived to reach his goals despite the obstacles and haters placed in front of him.  He knew what he wanted, and he set out to get it through hard work and raw talent.

Ralph Lauren, we salute you as an inspiration and raise a glass to 75 years of awesome!



FASHION: Males Are Now Going to Great Lengths

by Kristie LeVangie

Hair extensions used to be reserved for women.

Well…not anymore.

Celebs like Justin Bieber,


Harry Styles,


and David Beckham


have men feeling as self-conscious about what they have “on top” as they are about what’s on the bottom.

Salons in the U.K. are reporting as much as a 200% increase in male hair extension interest.  Whether it’s length, texture or volume, men are seeking ways to emulate the stars and enhance their coiffure beauty.

One of the companies leading this revolution was Great Lengths.  Check out some of their amazing transformations here:

Extensions aren’t just for men who want to make a statement.  They are for any man who wants to maintain his youthful mane, and for some can be a viable alternative to the scary “plugs” or surgical hair replacement procedures.

We say two thumbs up to this male beauty trend.  What do you think, men?  Would you ever?

Male Fashion: A Brogue By Any Other Name

by Kristie LeVangie

We all call them “Wingtips.”




They are one of the markers of a successful man.

Dwyane Wade

Or a gangster…

Gangster Man


What was I saying???

Oh, yeah!

The shoes.

Did you know that Wingtips aren’t really Wingtips?  They are actually a type of Brogue shoe.  Brogue shoes are “a style of low-heeled shoe or boot traditionally characterized by multiple-piece, sturdy leather uppers with decorative perforations (or “broguing”) and serration along the pieces’ visible edges,” says Wikipedia.

This style of shoe has Scottish and Irish roots and was originally constructed with perforations to allow the moisture to escape when trekking through wetlands, like bogs.  What was once an outdoor shoe has transitioned today to be the height of male fashion and a moniker of success and power.

Brogues are most commonly found in one of four toe cap styles (full or “wingtip”, semi-, quarter and longwing).  Here’s a great graphic I found on the web to illustrate the different toe cap styles.


They can have one of four closure styles, including:

Oxford – shoelace eyelets tabs that are attached under the vamp, a feature termed “closed lacing”.


Derby – Also called the Blucher – shoelace eyelet tabs that are sewn on top of a single-piece vamp, also known as “open lacing”.


Ghillie – thick soled shoes with no tongues and long laces


And Monk – no lacing, closed by a buckle and strap


We usually see these in solid colors, but sophistication and swag come into play when the vamps, or uppers, vary in color, pattern or texture.



These look great with your favorite suits or with jeans and sweater for an ultra-sophisticated date night look.

Don’t have a pair in your closet yet?  I went to, my favorite guilty window shopping site, and found these for you.  From dressy to casual, they are only a few clicks away.  (Click on the picture to be taken to Zappos to purchase.)  Just think of me as your personal shopper.  😉

Cole Haan LunarGrand Wing Tip – $228

Cole Haan Men's Shoes


Steve Madden Virgo – $100

Steve Madden Virgo Men's Shoes

Mistress Elle: Jumping Into eBay Feet First

That’s right.  It’s time for your session with Mistress Elle.Elle Mistresses operate best giving instructions.  😉 It’s easy. 1.  You submit your questions to 2.  I share my googled research, sage advice, years of experience, and deliver it to you in one sarcastically biting blog. And now, Curious in Ohio “shoely” needs some help from The Mistress.

Q: What’s Up With These Shoes on eBay?

First up is a question from Curious in Ohio: So I have a question….See, I like to browse eBay for used shoes (I am a shoe freak!) and sometimes someone only wears the shoe only a couple of times and decide they hate the shoes and try to sell them.  I have gotten some really good shoes for a good price that way, but I always wondered about those certain listings where the shoes are trashed and the listing of it is “private” (whatever the hell that means).   I am sure there are other women looking for normal shoes on eBay and have come across these listings and wondered what the hell is going on.  Is there a fetish out there where men like used shoes that women put their feet in and have pics with? Can’t figure this one out!! Or could it be a lesbian thing? Educate me.   Curious in Ohio, What a great question!  And I actually have personal experience here.  As a long-time eBay lister, I was once approached about a pair of shoes I listed on eBay a year or so back.  We all know how Mistress loves her shoes, and I had reached the point where my collection was growing larger than my capacity to store them. (Not my actual closet…mine is SOOOO much larger. lol) So…I listed a pair of tan wedged sandals that had been worn quite a few times.  My foot imprint was in the sole but they were clean and good condition otherwise. Just hours after my posting was listed, I got 2 emails regarding the shoes as well as requests for additional pictures of my feet. Come to find out through some further email exchanges there IS a fetish out there for worn women’s shoes and more specifically sweaty feet.

One of the men to approach me was the writer of this blog:  Not only does he surf eBay for potential features for his blog, he also tracks celebrity gossip columns.  And yes, I was a featured foot model for his eBay listers. This fetish is not a lesbian thing.  As with most fetishes, it spans both genders and is a very specialized type of the more general “foot fetish.” To your point of the listing type, posting a “private” auction does ensure that the name and information of the buyer is not made public to other eBayers.  Many adult listings, as well as some clothing, shoe and accessory listings are made private. I  once had a friend who was a crossdresser, and he was able to shed some light on this mystery.  You see it’s uncomfortable for most crossdressers to shop retail stores, particularly to visit women’s retail shops and try on the clothing and shoes.  Just imagine the looks they would get!  So eBay is the most viable option.  Not only are the items delivered in such a way that even the postal worker isn’t aware of the contents, they can shop with complete freedom from embarrassment of other eBayers. So as you are perusing the shoe availability on our favorite auction site, you won’t be able to help but notice these listings now.  And hell, if you need some extra money, there are certainly worse things you could sell.

Sometimes, We Men Need to Up Our Game

by Johnny Jackhammer

Gentlemen, there may come a time when you need to pick up your sexiness. That’s right.  I said it. Maybe it’s a wedding or a class reunion. Perhaps it’s a local tavern or a dance club. Or maybe you just want to stand out from the crowd when some feature dancer visits the local strip club. Guys have a tough time because all the sexy clothes are made for women. Skeptical? Check out your Halloween Outlet each October. For the ladies, there is no shortage of sexy nurses, sexy cavewomen, sexy cats, sexy bunnies, sexy vampires, or sexy sex pots.
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For the guys, you have your pick of clown wigs, mustard bottle suits, or Freddy masks. (Note for the future: be sure to write about clown sex. But I digress . . . )

ketchup clown Freddie








We, Men, can feel like we are at a disadvantage.  Those of us with partners have “outkicked our coverage,” and we know it.  Those of us who are single can feel that like an outsider or a pretender.

Just like good ole, JT…


We need to bring the sexy.

There was a thread started on a community board asking what guys can wear to fetish events, noting that “kinky attire for men seems so silly.” In reality, ladies deck out in spandex and lingerie, and guys are stuck with jeans and t-shirts. I have been to enough such events to see how this is true. But we don’t want it to be that way! We want to be part of the fun and interaction. We want to match the ladies and maybe even turn a few of their heads.

Your own confidence is the foundation: Confidence that you have something to bring to the table. Be secure in yourself. This is especially important if you choose a style of attire that’s out of your comfort zone. Just remember: this is for a fun night out, not a major lifestyle statement!

One night, my wife and I were about to go out to a social event in the kink community. We didn’t have any plans. We just wanted to socialize and see what was happening. Even so, I panicked about how hot she was dressed while I had nothing to wear. She looked me in the eye and told me to just wear my confidence and strength. The clothes didn’t matter.

It was good advice but…I still went shopping.

Here are a few things I learned:

The Basics

In a pinch, just go back to the classic formal wear. A crisp white shirt is always a winner, and you can pull that off with anything from jeans to tuxedo pants. If you have a vest (suit or leather), that’s a good way to finish it. You’ll look clean, and your lady will appreciate the effort. I’d leave any sportcoat behind. Why start sweating without a good reason yet?

Picking It Up

Taking a cue from my lady, I started checking out the local thrift store. You might be surprised what you can find there. When seeking sexy club clothes, make sure to look at button-up shirts – this might work in your favor later in the evening!

Black is an easy and plentiful choice, no matter what size you are. Something loud and colorful might be a good choice, if you want to get noticed as being fun. Look for shirts that you can imagine at a disco – shiny fabrics, loose fit.

If you go with a t-shirt style, try and get something that’s more on the form-fitting side. Both of these choices portray a fun, confident attitude.


Attending Edgier Events

Leather and studs always look sharp, but that betrays my metalhead origins as a Judas Priest fan.

Even so, a studded leather belt and vest with some jeans will make an impression. (Now if I could only find a doctor to sell me prescription mirror shades…)

If you’re going to a fetish event, themed holiday party, or swinger party, you could always make a statement by reaching for pajama pants and robes. Hell, it worked for Hef; didn’t it?


Pictured are a couple of silky lounge pants I picked up at the Goodwill (as well as some dress pants from a major box retailer).  The robe above is a vintage bathrobe I found on Etsy.

They have been comfortable and generate compliments. Bonus! (Don’t brag to the ladies, though. Trust me, they aren’t wearing anything comfortable!)


Big Guys

I have several friends who are larger, but still have a great time getting out and sexy.   And I’m not talking about pals with a beer gut – I mean guys who can’t successfully clothes shop at the mall. One “go to” item for them is a Kilt.


Yes, they can be expensive, but a good kilt will last you a lifetime. Leather kilts, in particular, can be sexy and dangerous and fun.

Plus, you are guaranteed to have ladies ask you what’s under that kilt. Flirt back! If you have some extra girth, I hope you’re able to make it count. You really can’t hide your size, but how you carry it confidently, can make all the difference.

A white dress shirt with a smoking jacket can also make a powerful impression.

Finding YOUR OWN Style

Where to go for inspiration? Think about what the women who catch your eye really like. What do they “ooh” and “ahh” about? What turns their head?

Well, in my universe, the women who are most in touch with their sexuality love Gay Porn. My research did not include watching gay porn (not that there’s anything wrong with that), but it did include looking at club, dating, and fetish styles of gay men.

There’s an old joke about a woman being attracted to men who always turn out to be gay. Well, you could be the one to delight her for a change! You won’t find me waxing my chest or anything, but I just might ask them where they got those leather pants . . .

Dyed and Gone to Heaven





by Kristie LeVangie

With bright floral prints and colorblocking in season for apparel, the color continues as the mane attraction when it comes to sun-kissed locks.

The red and blonde ombres of last season make way for some untraditional pops of color.

Pink is Chic

The pink trend has been seen on celebrities such as Emma Stone, Katy Perry, Rachel McAdams, Heidi Klum and Carrie Underwood.

Light pink, bright pink, a little pink, a lot of pink…it’s feminine and edgy…and reads like the opening of a Dr. Suess book.

Pink Hair



Get a clue.  Go for blue!

Both Katy Perry and Demi Lovato have taken blue to a whole new level.  Go bold!

katy perry blue hair


Or soften it with a little less intensity.  Like this subdued hue.


Or this…


Purple is To Die For.

Katy Perry makes our list yet again.  This time she appears with her purple locks.

Whether it’s her intense royal purple,





…or something a bit more lilac…


Purple commands some attention.



Our longer stint with Mint.

Coming out of last season, mint green seems to be a color we aren’t yet willing to let go of.

When done well, mint hair can be a show-stopper.  We’ve found it on celebrities like Lady Gaga and Amanda Bines.

Lady Gaga arrives at the Park Hyatt Hotel, Sydney, Australia - 17 Jun 2012



Colorful Tips

Color is fun, and giving your head a colorful makeover could be just the thing to get you through summer.  We have a few tips to help you with such a hair-raising decision.

1.  Decide how much color you are comfortable with.  Perhaps an all-over color isn’t something your job will allow.  Perhaps you aren’t necessarily bold enough to pull off an all-over color change.  Whether it’s tips, streaks or all-over commitment, this should be your first decision.

2.  After you’ve decided how much color you want, it’s time to decide on WHAT color.  First, look at your wardrobe.  If you wear a lot of pink, for instance, you may want to avoid pink hair.  Monochromatic isn’t the look we would promote here.  Instead, choose a nice contrasting color like blue to make your pink wardrobe pop.  You will also want to consider your eye and skin color.

3.  Keep it simple.  Too complex of color schemes can have you looking more clown than fashionista.

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Don’t be afraid to play though.  More than one color can be awesome if you keep it simple.


4.  Do not color your eyebrows to match.  Enough said.  Really.

5.  As with any hair styling change, consider the health of your hair first and foremost.  Too much bleaching or dying can dry hair out and damage it.  Take the necessary steps to maintain your shine and the integrity of your locks.  After all, it’s hard to dye your bare scalp.

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